Politics and the family

lately i have been feeling

that the current paradigm of unquestioning acceptance of the preposition that family is good is deeply problematic
and there's an unstated assumption
like the assumption that government should be run like a bussiness, but even more unquestioned
that the family is a good model for government
and it leads 2 bad outcomes

frustrated expectations. that the leader should be father, and the nation structured like the 50's ideal, is one of the pillars of conservativism
and arguably on a wider scale ethnic/romantic nationalism is an outgrowth of unconscious, or at least rarely stated, ideas about family

hewing specifically to paganism, this ideal of the family provides the structure to the pan helenistic view of the gods and how they are organised in pantheon.... and i'm nearing the point of open rejection of this conception as a useful way to think about the gods tbh
it feels more like a building backwards to legitimise the family as being mirrored in the heavens, than something useful to understanding the gods